Wednesday, February 9, 2011

Captain save a ho is not a role model: Understanding the facade of swagger

What is swagger? Is swagger that annoying arrogance that gets under peoples skin? Is swagger a permanent state of narcissitic delusion? Our concern or fascination with swag didn't start  until a few rappers started talking about swag in their songs. Swagger is supposedly the one thing that can make a young man succesful with the ladies. A man does have to have some confidence but not to the point where he is being egotistical.

The problem with this current fascination with swagger is that it is contrary to the realities of male and female interaction. The facade of swagger creates the illusion that men can make women be with them or even have sex with them. There is nothing a man can do to make a woman have sex with him, the woman must decide to have sex with him, there are rape and sexual harassment laws that make this point fact not just my opinion. The only men stupid enough to believe otherwise are male chauvinists that think women don't have the capacity to make their own decisions. 

Men do the approaching but women do the actual choosing, just because you approach someone it doesn't mean you're gonna hook up with them. Women might behave like the rap or the game that a man spits to her is what made her mind up for her, but this is completely illusory. Women don't settle for any man that approaches them, so whenever a guy fails it doesn't necessarily mean he is lame or corny, it just means he wasn't the type of guy the lady desires. The facade of being cocksure is more ritual and bravado than it is persuasive charm. We think that this display influences the lady's decision, but it doesn't, I'm saying this because whenever a woman rejects a guy she doesn't have to explain why she did it. The chauvinistic males that really think they can make a woman have sex with them don't understand reality, these meatheads think they have a magic mouthpiece. The key to their success with the ladies is their lack of awareness. 

If women want men to believe that we can make them have sex with another man, wouldn't they want men to believe that they can make women have sex with them? Whenever a woman is justifying her infidelity she always says that her man made her have sex with another man, who could be dumb enough to believe this BS? Probably the male chauvinist who thinks women can't make their own decisions- in other words the narcissitic asshole who "thinks he got swag". The guys who claim to have swagger usually have more sexual partners than the nerdy guys. It should be obvious why the guys with this lack of awareness have more sex than educated men. 

This lack of awareness is a valuable asset because it absolves the female, men are not supposed to understand women. If men did understand women they would realize that emotion has a dark sinister side that is entirely negative. Young men are aspiring to be like the guys that get the most attention and affection from the ladies, they don't aspire to be captain save a ho, the guy that is supposedly lacking swagger so he has no choice but to date women that are tired of swagger and pipelaying skills, but these young women usually have children by these men that had nothing but swag and pipelaying skills to offer her. 

Apparently young women don't desire the educated men until it is out of necessity, when they "need a real man to help her with her kids". Standards change with time, forty years ago the man that stepped up and raised another man's children was praised and revered, he was considered the bigger man. Today the stepfather is called captain save a ho, he is so lame that the only attention he can get is from women that have  been used, abused and abandoned by the guys that have swagger. Uneducated men are having more sex than educated men, getting an education might lead to raising the uneducated man's kids. 

The days of young men aspiring to be benevolent fathers are gone, today boys want to be like the playas and mack daddies that have the most sexual partners. We must not forget that the demonization of fatherhood is the result of the war against fathers that started with second wave feminism in the sixties. The war against patriarchy and fathers is a war against the foundation of the family. If there wasn't a demonization of fatherhood, the stepdad would still be revered instead of being viewed as a weird, sex starved sucker, but the fact that stepfathers are always getting accused of touching their woman's developing daughters makes it even harder for people to sympathize with the stepdad. 

The numerous stigmas attached to being a stepfather are more than enough reason for young men to avoid becoming a stepdad. Male desire has achieved what the radical feminists have been trying to accomplish- dismantling of the nuclear two parent household. Manipulating male desire to achieve their own political goals was a stroke of genius, is the shortage of marriageable men a mere coincidence? or is it the fact that an abundance of educated marriageable men would  make an abundance of two parent families inevitable?

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